A days story!

It seems like I am towards the end of a very long vacation from my technical interests! I have relaxed my body and mind quite well in recent days. My head is spinning refusing to chose  a subject to read, hence I resorted to make a log of the things I did yesterday!

5:30 AM: Woke up, catched up with the walk and coffee!

6:30 AM: Was with J Krishnamurthy’s facing the world in a crisis

7:00 AM: Checking the blogs and mails

7:30 AM-9:00 AM: Since it was Karthicks last day in my room had trifles with him

9:00 AM: Cloudy atmosphere.. No work at work! Brother may call at any time for assistance! All these factors motivated me to make a holiday and I knew I had some residual sleep . Hence started to slumber

9:30 AM: As expected my brother calls! Wakes up in middle of sleep and rushed to his college!

10:15 AM: In his campus on a rainy day, recollecting my days in my college! The wait before the principal room reminded my days waiting for signature for trivial things!

10:30 AM: Coffee at Canteen and decides to watch  INCEPTION

11:00 AM: Shared an auto with fellow chennaits which seems to be the slowest on earth!However reached the theather well ahead of time. So did some window shopping in reliance digital world

12:00 PM: Inception starts! Reflected on my childhood thought “What if life was one long dream in heaven”. Poor theathre 20% of the movies dialogue was chewed! Brilliant but not a great movie! Overrated!

2:30 PM: Responds to a slew of missed call and decided not to step in to office. Tried out a new hotel puncturing my wallet!

3:30 PM Back in room! Knew very well that my body needed rest! Slept in inception style.

5:00 PM Strolled along to TOWERS PARK! It was all lighted up and humans were really happy! Kids were alluring! Weared my thinking hat and did non stop walking and thinking .

7:00 PM: This should have been reading time..I dont have a clue on what I did sitting before the computer

7:45 PM: Shopping time.. Went for the veggies and groceries

8:00 PM Couple of calls which took couple of 20 minutes

9:00 PM Assisting in dinner preparation

10:00 PM  A wholesome dinner! Rice after a long time at home! That felt damn good because we had to starve ourselves!

10:30 PM Decides to read again.. but finds my system occupied.Torn between sleep and reading wastes few minutes sits before the system to respond to mails!

11:00 PM Seeing the huge backlog of things to be done, I decide to gift myself enough rest to take them up tomorrow:)

> 12:00 PM Midnight talks with Kanak about SVN and his concerns.. Didnt knew when I slept!! Do any of you know the exact timing when we get to sleep!

Looking back at it, this is not the way my days had to be filled If I had to make my days! I want an uncertainty lurking around me to end. I must say I had given it more time than I should have! But its in the fringe of its end and hope I make better days soon. I did this post to cool my brain and I have achieved the same!

Start with strangers

I am currently reading “Hard Times” and today I came across the episode where James walks in to a places which is new for him and gets introduces to the other characters in the novel.While reading those lines thoughts spewed in to my mind on how we make connections with people and thought of digging them a bit by thinking them aloud.

The world is just the same, but each one of us looks at it with different assumptions and views and hence it inflicts different kinds of emotions in us. Our actions depend on our assumptions about the world. Our assumptions find their root in what we were told about the world. Our parents and family members are our first eye. As we grow up they teach as “A for apple” so that we get to know both the alphabet and the fruit. But as they impart us their knowledge they also inflict their uncertain assumptions as knowledge to them. If some one was not amicable to them they were introduced with a heinous description to us.

As we grow up we dont rely much on our parents  since we have formed our own assumptions about them and our brain knows when to take their suggestions and when not to. But still we are not completely free to chose our assumptions. The world is so big and is there is always more people whom you dont know than you can know. You come across many new people and they are always introduced to you through someone or something you already know. The way you frame your assumption about the new people mostly depends on that ‘Connection’ which connected you.

James is refered to work in Bounderbys factory by Gradgrind. Gradgrind is a parliamentarian and Bounderby’s father-in-law. He has become so because Bounderby married Lousia who happens to be the cute little daughter of Gradgrind. Lousia has a whelp as a brother who got a name called TOM.

As James walks in and shows the letter from GradGrind , Bounderby treats him with utmost respect since he has been referred by GradGrind.  He doesnt have an eye of his own to judge James rather uses Grads vision for his. When Lousia meets up with James Lousia seems indifferent to him. Bounderby had earlier spoke to James about his wife of which he formed certain expectations. But Lousia in her unemotional form seemed to be a contradiction to it. And then comes the most important connection which triggered this post. It was between Tom and James. Tom was introduced to James  while on a dinner table with his sister and brother in law on their sides.

They exchange normal pleasantries and Tom is supposed to speak good about his brother-in-law to his esteemed guest.But he doesnt do so and starts the conversation commenting about the braggart in Bounderby.

James replies “A very good fellow indeed…”

Tom “Do you really think so..” in a satirical tone.

James “What a comical brother in law you are…”

Tom ..”What a comical brother in law you have — i think thats what you meant..”

The conversation proceeds that way and in few strides they were able to realize that their thoughts are identical and they start a conversation which is honest to their heart.

When at work you arent supposed to speak ill of it. When with a friend of your friend’s  you arent supposed to give out bad comments about your friend. So goes the connections and many connection when made dont start in a honest tone. We fail to know the real people in them and our assumptions are covered by the impressions left by so called connections.

I cannot be explicit as Tom does for obvious reason, but even then I would like to exhibit a brand unique to me which can shine even beneath the ‘connection’ clouds and I seek insight which can see beneath the ‘connection’ cloud.

Connect to the strangers beyond the impressions of your connections and I guess that will give a new colour to life.

And doing a little self-retrospection I have been a  good connector all my life. I have helped people connect each other without my impressions influencing them. My friends whom I connected became better friends among themselves than they are to mine. Time to wear the geeks hat and mine this connections and find out how it works. Let me stop this ramblings here and get back!!!  Happy to blog without a purpose:)